I am not a grounded person. As much as that pains me to admit because of the fear I have of being judged by others for not having it all together, the truth is, I am not grounded. I do not have it all figured out and most days feel like I’m a spiraling cyclone just trying to keep up with everything.
Maybe you are like me and have many different roles that demand your time and energy. I’m a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a Dean of Students, a body love mentor/coach, a friend, a business partner, a congregation member and I’m sure there are a few more roles that I’ve neglected or forgotten about in the spiral to meet the demands of each role.
When it comes to being grounded, I just am not. When someone is described as grounded it means they are aware and fully present. Grounded people are mindful and rarely think about the “what ifs” (not me sister, I’m usually up in the middle of the night thinking “what if”). Grounded people are said to have every aspect of their life in balance. I don’t even balance a checkbook let alone the other areas of my life.
Sometimes I feel like a failure or that I am letting someone down if I can’t find balance. For example, if work is demanding me to attend meetings that extend into the evening, my family suffers. If I don’t prioritize sleep, I struggle to workout in the morning. If I fill my calendar to the max with social gatherings and events, my devotional life suffers. It feels like there is always an area of my life that is out of balance. I find myself resenting the obligations and responsibilities that cause this imbalance because I am not the type of person that likes to feel like I don’t have it all together.
Can you relate?
The Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Colossians, encourages the Colassians to find fullness in Christ by being ROOTED in him.
“Let your roots grow down into him, and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness." Colassians 2:7
Paul doesn’t just say be “grounded” or “balanced” or only “built” on Christ. Paul says let our “ROOTS grow down INTO him”. He tells us to be ROOTED in Christ. Roots are the reason plants can grow. They are the source for food and nutrition as well as to keep plants sturdy in the ground. The deeper the roots the sturdier and more nourished the plant.
I don’t just want to be grounded in Christ, I want to be ROOTED in Christ. I need to be rooted in Christ. When I am rooted in Christ I can build my life on him. My faith will grow stronger in His truths the deeper I root myself in Him. The result of this is joy and thankfulness. Yes, even when the storms of life have me spiraling and I can’t find balance I know one thing is for certain - the deeper I root myself in Christ the stronger I am in the storm.
Jesus reminds us what happens to those that don’t root themselves in him.
“Those on the rocky ground are the ones who receive the word with joy when they hear it, but they have no root. They believe for a while, but in the time of testing they fall away.” Luke 8:13
When we are consumed by trying to find balance in life and don’t deeply root ourselves in Christ we will have temporary joy or none at all. When we are consumed by pleasing others or keeping up with the demands of our roles we will find ourselves thirsty and withering. Our identity and our eternity is not contingent on our ability to be a balanced, grounded person. (and thank God for that).
When we are rooted in Christ we desire him, we spend time with him, we get to know him and grow stronger in our faith. When we deeply root ourselves in Christ it is then we can become grounded and sturdy.
Sister, stop spiraling. You alone will never be able to meet the demands of everyone all the time. Stop trying to control the imbalance in your life and let God. Root yourself in him. Spend time with him, desire him, get to know him, and love him. Let those roots grow deep in Christ. True joy, peace, and balance can only be found in Christ and who he says you are.
Let’s not just be grounded women, but let’s be women of faith that are deeply rooted and grounded in Christ.
Rebecca Wockenfuss - CTC Influencer
Rebecca resides in a small rural town just north of Milwaukee, WI with her husband of 13 years and 2 children. She serves as a Dean of Students for a Lutheran inner city elementary school. She is a Jesus lover and fitness enthusiast.
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