Love Is NOT Just a FEELING!

What is love?  The question every person has pondered.  Is it a feeling?  An emotion? As humans living in our culture, we “love” lots of things.  I love coffee, cinnamon gum and leggings, but I’m pretty sure that’s not fitting of God’s definition.  We tend to be a bit flippant with our love.


I’m going to be honest and say that when we’re called to “love our neighbor as ourselves”, that doesn’t mean when we FEEL like loving.  People are hard to love.  Especially when we know WAY too much about every person’s views on all things that we read about on social media.  Emotions, feelings, and obligations just don’t last!  We can’t base our love for His people on the people.


Perhaps we could all use a reminder of what love IS these days.


In the new testament, the most common word used for love is agape which means affection, benevolence, good-will, high esteem and concern for welfare.  It is deliberate and purposeful.  It’s not emotional or impulsive. 


In John 4 starting in verse 16 we’re reminded:

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.


We are called not just to love but to love without fear.  God’s love is fearless.  We can abundantly and fully share HIS love because it knows no limits.  Real love, His love, cannot be punished.  That doesn’t make it easy or unimportant by any means.


What if the Church loved this way?  Think about how radically different our world might look if God’s perfect love was abundantly overflowing. How that reflection in His people might impact those who don’t yet know Him!


Our culture sure can use agape love right now.  A great question to ask ourselves is “Am I living in love or fear in this situation/with this person?”. I can tell you that recently my answer has often been no. I’ve excused my lack of love based upon circumstances or emotions.  I have been praying to change that. 


Lord, give me a heart that loves like you.  Help me to love without fear and with benevolence and good-will!  May I not be distracted by the world nor depend on my feelings.  May I depend on your strength, not my comfort.  Lord make my love complete like yours! In the name of Jesus, my savior- Amen


Emily Saunders - CTC Keeper





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